Utilize open-ended questions. Yes or no answers end things!
In our exchange “What’s the best coffee option? Any recommendations?” requires an actual answer, not just a one-word response.
Ask follow-up questions. I’m throwing the ball back to Jacob.
“I believe it’s called a Mocha…yes?” This is a cue for the other person to continue.
Make it personal.
Admittedly I was a bit forward asking “What’s your name?” but it made the interaction feel more like a conversation than small talk because it was tied back to Jacob.
Be engaging.
By showing some personality and saying “From this day forward I’m calling it “The Jacob”, the interaction felt more interesting.
AND… Jacob was super engaging when he said “I swear by ¾ French Vanilla coffee and ¼ Hot Chocolate.” He could have easily said:
“I don’t have a favorite”
“I’m not sure”
“Coffee is coffee”
These answers would have ended our conversation but this was an easy toss back to me.
Well played, Jacob!