We don’t really know what to do but we do it anyway. Imperfect action that moves us forward. And we learn and figure things out in the process.
When I first started learning about body language I did it to help me understand how to “behave” and put on my imaginary coat of armor. Trying out new skills felt completely awkward (like standing with my hands at my sides and out of my pockets, or just standing confidently). I was 100% going through the motions.
The thing about repetition and small repetitive acts of imperfect actions is that they compound and eventually turn into a new normal. It might not be a joy ride getting there, but somewhere on the journey, it starts to feel more comfortable. It starts to feel like you understand and know what you’re doing.
Life is a journey, my friend, and we all have moments where we are going through the motions. Faking it until we’re making it. One foot in front of the other until progress is made.